"Nepalese Americans" and "American Nepalis"

"Hey Dude, Whats up! Did u watch 'New moon'? what an awesome movie man!Really loved it!" Julesh typed speeding throughout the line.

"Oh sathi, k cha yar. Chaina tyo movie hereko ta but "Mero Euta Sathi cha" hernu man lageko thiyo, pako chaina, taile heris?"replied Sherchan.

"What??? Who will watch that crap dude.Whts wrong with you?"

"Naramro cha ra? Sabaile ramro cha bhanthe ta. Yaha ayepachi ta English movie bhanda Nepali movie nai hernu man lagdo raicha yar"

"U've gone out of ur mind"

"Chod, ani how was ur Dashain tihar?"

"Dashai, Tihar aayo gayo, khi na khi...Tika ko din ma dance party thyo Sheesha ma, tetai gaiyo tei ho. tero kasto bhayo ni?"

"Ekdam ramailo. Sathi haru milera pooja gariyo, jamara ni laiyo, khashi katiyo, was really fun. But ghar  ta miss bhaihalcha ni"

" Eh, I dnt know why u guys see so much fun in Dashai" "gtg" "Catch ya later" (Pakhe bhayecha US gayera ta jhan)

"La ta yar, take gud care"

May be a liitle dramatic, but this conversation depicts the essence of what I have been feeling since a long time now. It must have been difficult to know who is in US and who is in Nepal from this conversation ,  its Julesh who is in Nepal and Sherchan is in US.

Without beating around the Bush much now I will directly come to the point I want to bring out.

Is " Going to America" or "Being ignorant" living the "American Dream"?

Its been very easy for Nepalese teen agers to find their dreams, much easier than most of others in developed countries. Ask randomly to any youth,"what are you going to do in your life?" and the answer is straight and easy "Go abroad". They dont bother to think beyond that anymore. Life is as simple as going abroad and uploading photos of them driving a car to Facebook and Hi5 and getting comments from their friends in Nepal saying " Wah gadi chadne bhaisakis?". 

So then if you are going abroad as soon as you complete your Intermediate, what are you supposed to do during your high school? Simple!

Learn to live the foreign (american) lifestyle.

And how do americans live?

Haven't you seen english movies? They live life as ignorantly as possible.They dont care about anything.They simply ROCK.

Oh, ok then thats what we are supposed to do.ROCK! Lets do it then.

Lets start with a modified bike, a tore(grunge) pant and colored hair.

And thats exactly how you would see guys going around. Less they care about their future, family and even less they care about culture and college.All thats there in their To-Do List is to Rock and to live American Lifestyle.Its true with both who want to go abroad as well as those who cant go for some reason but aren't able to come out of that heavenly american dream.

I am not much of a patriotic myself, but then it really hurts to see that not even a single young guy wants to live a Nepali life in Nepal. That sometimes forces me to question myself, are you the only fool(pakhe) who fears about going abroad and wants to settle in Nepal? Even if the answer is Yes, it doesnt matter much to me, I will live here, but not so comfortably with wanna-be american fools hovering around me.

Colleges in Nepal ahave no motto anymore, their job is only to give their students a high school certificate which will help them to go abroad. None of the educational institution in Nepal have a vision to build the future Nepal through them. Then whats the use of having so many educational institutions? Isnt producing people who can build country's future tomorrow the only purpose of having institutions?

As I walk around the street and see guys loafing around talking big about English movies and 70's rock (no one else even listens to them now), I question myself again am I the only pakhe out here? I just wonder when will these guys start thinking about rocking their own show and stop banging their heads to those outdated negativity busters.  If life is just to copy american Lifestyle and dream is just to reach America, then I am sorry, I am pakhe and I cant change myself.But if Life is something bigger than reaching america and chasing your own dreams rather than americans' then my friends, I am sorry, but you are the ones who are being fortunate fools.

My point and thoughts only grow stronger whenever I get a chance to chat with my mates who are abroad and their unseen cry justifies my otherwise baseless thoughts. Nepalese in other countries are so affectionate to their own culture and country. Only when they leave their country do they realise the importance of own culture and own identity. So many Nepali cultural events around the world only makes the point stronger.

Those who didn't even bother to buy a cassette of Nepali singer while at home now pays to sponsor a concert of the artist in foreign land.Only when people reach America do they realise that even Americans are not Gods and how they live is just one of the lifestyles.Then they crawl back to find their own lifestyle and originality and realise that they have not been rocking but acting fools all this time.

So to those who haven't been to America may be there's a lesson to learn, Dont try to be Americans, that wont help much,rather try to be YOU yourself and you may find life a lot easier. And as per my understanding that is what is AMERICAN DREAM "To chase to become what you want and to live life King Size, in your own original way"

To all my fellow rockers:                             

                           

 "IGNORANCE IS NOT A BLISS ITS AN OBLIVION"  

P.S: I have used America as a substitute for all foreign countries and this article is not against anyone who is in America or is planning to go there.